Married at 20 something
The college guy that I was, which whom I try to forget, would have never been married with kids. I was practically all gas no breaks with no intentions to slow down. But then I ran into someone from the past, blinked twice, and I was married. That’s not exactly how it happened, but that’s the short version.
While reminiscing on the past dates that we had, I always think of the time I was asked how often I check my credit. I remember thinking, “Sis is nosey.” That just isn’t your typical icebreaker on a date, but discussions like that helped me understand where this woman had her mind. From that moment on my thoughts transitioned from “I want this person,” to “I need this person.” I didn't know if I was in a moment of desperation or going through a mid life crisis. In my head im like "this is not me, im tripping. I don't need anybody." But do we really know what we need? I can’t speak for anyone else, but in the back of my mind I always knew what I needed in life. I knew it would take just a matter of time for a light bulb to appear and I started to pursue someone who would bring out the real man that was always rooted inside of me.
Time flies, and now its date nights, vacations, and our favorite game of who’s turn is it to change the baby. Have you ever just had an epiphany and asked yourself “how did I get here?” That’s where my mind is most of the time I sit and reflect. My favorite thing about marriage has to be having someone who constantly challenges and pushes me to be a better version of myself. It doesn’t always feel good in the moment. Honestly, it’s actually annoying at times but when has being held accountable ever been something to be excited about?
It’s the ending result that’s most rewarding, however I can't point you to the exact duration of that moment. Having a counterpart that can see something much greater in myself is one of a kind, Especially since I'm mainly focused on the tasks at hand then what the future has in store.
From the moment I said those words at the alter, I knew the journey I would began to embark on would be like no other. If I said this road was all peaches and cream would you believe me? Just like anything in life you will be tested. There is always trying times, and you're going to make mistakes. It's how you recognize those mistakes, create an action plan to improve, and make it happen.